Men: help with your online dating profile and selfies

Nov 19

Nov 19 Men: help with your online dating profile and selfies

Men: some tips for your online dating profile -

PHOTOS

The point of a selfie is that you take a lot of them, select the best and just post that one.
Your phone has a reverse-camera so you really don't need the mirror.
Maybe you might include a beach shot - a bare chest is acceptable in that context only. Any other nudity is inappropriate (have you not heard of cyber-safety?!)
If you're bald or have a shaven head, own it. Not necessarily a bad thing but it's a weird surprise when you look different to what we were expecting. (Tip for chicks - when every photo has a hat on...)
The optimal number of photos is between 3 and 5. Not 18. Definitely not 26.
We can tell when you ex-other-half's face has been cut out of the photo - can't you just take a fresh one?!
Fishing and hunting photos. No.

CHILDREN

If you have them, better to say so and be honest that they're an important part of your life - no point in attracting an evil step-mother.
But maybe don't include photos of your kids in your profile ...
You have a biological clock too. (Mid 40s and you might like children "sometime in the future"? Biology says if you leave it much longer, you're going to need to date someone young enough to actually be your child.)

YOUR PROFILE

If you're looking for a booty call and not much else, can we have a code for that? Let's find you a match who is looking for the very same thing.
Yes we are all looking for trust this time around. But we can read between the lines, and if you're reading "bitter" you're not really ready for someone new.
Too much is too much - it can be a test of stamina to get past your introduction. Like that you're a communicator, but maybe save something for the first date?
Not enough is not very helpful. Unless you really nail the photos (see above).
You won't find your soul mate in a 22 year old #justsaying

SMILES AND TEXT MESSAGING

Smiles are a good start but probably won't get you very far
But if we smile at you, this is an invitation for you to write a message (and not a message that just says "hey")
Write something quirky or witty that shows you have read our profile
Once you engage, keep going! You'll do our head in if you read a message but then don't respond for ages (it makes it look like you are juggling lots of us ... are you?!)
Texting - and even phone calls - can cause us to forge a weird bond without knowing if there's even a chemistry. Bite the bullet - schedule a meet up.

FIRST DATE PROTOCOL

It's not even a date really - call it a meet up.
Keep it simple: wine or a coffee.
A woman worth keeping will offer to go halves; it's actually more comfortable that way.
If you do insist on paying, do it whole-heartedly - she'll likely take her turn on the next date
Having said all that, there is something really nice about a man picking up the bill (I know, sucks to be you) - it's not about the money, it just makes a girl feel taken care of. So if you're really sure about a girl, pay.